Goddess, you are not lazy! You might just be depressed! The Silent Weight of Depression

Hey there Goddess, 

Have you ever felt like you just can’t do anything—like even the simplest tasks feel impossible? You’re not lazy. You might just be depressed.

Depression isn’t just feeling sad. It can sneak up on you, draining your energy, clouding your thoughts, and making everyday life feel unbearable. It’s not something you can just snap out of, no matter how much people say, “Just be positive.” 

The truth is, depression is complex, and healing starts with small steps—steps you can take at your own pace, with grace and compassion for yourself.

The Weight of Depression

At first, it may be just a little sadness here and there, but over time, it grows. Simple things—getting out of bed, taking a shower, making a meal—start to feel overwhelming. You withdraw from family and friends, not because you don’t love them, but because the effort of being present feels exhausting.

You find yourself stuck in a cycle of prolonged sadness, feeling isolated, lost, and disconnected from the world.

How Depression Affects Your Health

1. Physical Health: Depression isn’t just in your mind—it affects your body, too. It can cause fatigue, chronic pain, headaches, digestive issues, and a weakened immune system. Long-term, it increases the risk of heart disease, high blood pressure, and other serious conditions.
2. Emotional and Mental Health: Depression clouds your thinking, makes decisions difficult, and convinces you that you’re not good enough. It traps you in negative thought patterns, making even the smallest challenges feel impossible to overcome.
3. Social and Emotional Isolation: Depression isolates you, making it harder to reach out for help. You may feel like a burden to others or believe no one will understand. But the truth is, people do care, and you deserve support.

The First Step: Small Wins Matter

A Mindset change doesn’t happen overnight. It’s not about forcing yourself to be happy but about taking one step at a time, starting small. We call it the “1Uthing”—the one thing you do for yourself each day, no matter how small.

• If you can’t get out of bed, start with making your bed.
• If showering feels overwhelming, wash your face or change into clean clothes.
• If you can’t face people, send a simple text to someone you trust.
• If eating is hard, start with one nourishing meal or a glass of water.

Every small step counts. The world pulls us in so many directions, but if you don’t set boundaries and prioritize yourself, you can get lost in the noise. Give yourself permission to heal at your own pace, without guilt or pressure.

Decluttering Emotional Baggage

We all experience deep sadness at some point. It’s easy to push feelings aside, to bury them under the weight of daily life. But that emotional “dirt” doesn’t disappear—it piles up. One day, the closet overflows, the carpet rises, and everything spills out, often in ways that hurt even more.

If you have a safe space—family, friends, a therapist—reach out. Share what you feel comfortable sharing. And if you don’t have that space, consider finding a professional who can help. You don’t have to carry this burden alone.

Rewiring Your Mindset

Unfortunately, there’s no shortcut to healing. You have to feel, process, reflect, and grow. Your mind is powerful—every thought, positive or negative, shapes your internal world. One way to shift your mindset is by practicing self-affirmation.

Try This: The 21-Day Self-Worth Jar

• Take a jar and, for the next 21 days, write down one positive thing about yourself each day.
• If it’s hard to think of something, ask trusted friends or family to write what they appreciate about you.
• Keep these notes in your jar and call it your Emergency 911 Jar—on tough days, read those messages and remind yourself of your worth.

At first, this may feel difficult. But over time, it will help you see yourself in a new light. Healing isn’t easy, but every small effort adds up.

Give Yourself Grace

Changing your mindset is a journey, not a quick fix. There will be good days and bad days. Some days, you’ll take a step forward; others, you may fall back. That’s okay. The key is to keep going, to be patient with you, and to recognize that progress, no matter how small, is still progress.

Ultimately, no one can force you to change your Mindset—you have to want it for yourself. But know this: You are loved. You are enough. You matter!

Check out our next post that will deal with the other side of Depression!

NB: If you’re struggling, please seek professional help. This not medical advice—just words of encouragement and support.

Stay loving on YOU, Goddess!