I RECEIVE!

Hey there Goddess,

Let’s dive into something that doesn’t get talked about nearly enough—the struggle to RECEIVE!!!

If you’ve ever cringed at a compliment, felt awkward when someone gives you a gift, or somehow owed someone after they did something kind for you, this one’s for you.

As women, we’re wired to give. We’re the nurturers, the caretakers, the fixers. But what happens when we’re on the receiving end?

Well, that’s where things get a bit uncomfortable, doesn’t it? Instead of soaking in the love, we immediately feel like we have to do something to balance the scales. Sound familiar?

Let’s break this down.

Why We Struggle to Receive?

First off, if you feel like you can’t just receive without an internal tug-of-war, you’re not alone. Most of the time this comes from years of being conditioned to give, give, give.

But here's the thing: this inability to receive is often rooted in trauma.

Trauma teaches us that love, praise, or kindness isn’t given freely. Maybe in your past, there were strings attached to every good thing you got. Or maybe you learned that you had to earn love by being perfect, selfless, or always "on."

So when someone gives you something—whether it’s a compliment, an accolade, or some flowers—you immediately feel like, “Wait, what do I have to do in return?” The discomfort isn’t just in your head; it’s deep in your body, in your soul. It’s like a knee-jerk reaction to something that should feel good, but instead makes you squirm.

The Over giving Cycle

Let’s talk about this endless cycle of overgiving after receiving. Ever been in a situation where someone says, “Wow, you’re amazing,” and instead of just saying “thank you” and meaning it, you reply with, “Oh no, you’re amazing!”... or “It was nothing!”

Why do we do this? Because receiving makes us feel like we’re in debt. We’ve been trained (hello, trauma!) to believe that receiving anything without giving something in return is selfish, ungrateful, or even rude. So we overcompensate, pouring from our already half-empty cups just to feel like we’ve “evened out” the scales.

It’s wild, right? The psychology behind it is rooted in that deep-seated need to be seen as valuable. If I’m giving, I’m worthy. If I’m receiving, I’m vulnerable. And vulnerability can feel unsafe.

Breaking the Pattern: I RECEIVE!!!

You can’t pour from an empty cup. (How many times have we heard that, but do we really get it?) When you receive, you allow the universe to fill you back up. You create space for more abundance, more love, more joy. You deserve that, Goddess.

So the next time someone gives you a compliment, a gift, or even just their time, take a deep breath. And instead of trying to give back immediately, just say, “Thank you.” Feel how that sits in your body. Yes, it’s going to be awkward at first. You might want to run and hide, but trust me, it gets easier with practice.

How to Start Receiving with Grace

• Compliments: The next time someone compliments you, resist the urge to downplay it. No “Oh, this old thing?” Just smile and say “Thank you” with your chest, girl!
• Gifts: When someone gives you a gift, accept it fully without thinking about what you need to give in return. Their gift to you is a reflection of their love, not a trade agreement.
• Praise: Ever feel like you don’t deserve the recognition for something you know you worked hard on? Stop that right now. Bask in that praise. You earned it.
• Help: Let people help you! It doesn’t mean you’re weak; it means you trust that others want to support you.

Healing the Trauma Around Receiving:

The inability to receive is a protective mechanism—one that served you when you didn’t feel safe. But now, we’re moving into a phase where we recognize that giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin. To live fully in our Divine Feminine energy, we need to do both, without guilt.

Try reflecting on where this discomfort with receiving comes from. Was it childhood? Past relationships? Society’s expectations of you as a woman? Identifying the root can help you begin to heal and open up to the love, abundance, and support that’s waiting for you.

Final Thoughts: You are Worthy!

Receiving doesn’t make you weak. It doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you human. And as a Goddess, you deserve to receive as much as you give. Let the love in. Let the abundance in. You don’t owe anyone anything in return except your genuine gratitude.

So, let’s make a pact right now—together. The next time someone gives you something (whether it’s a compliment, a gift, or their help), you’re going to receive it. Fully. Without guilt. Without overcompensating. Just soak it in and let it nourish you. (Terms,conditions and discernment applies..lol)

Because, Goddess, you are worthy of receiving all the good things this universe has to offer.

Cheers to healing trauma, breaking patterns and to receiving!